Hearing Byron Katie talk is delightful. Not only does she seem to have it all figured out but she is also brilliant at talking about it.
Like, about her marriage, and the moments her husband bothers her:
“Stephen is perfect. It is my thoughts about Stephen that need work.”
And there you have it. Simple as that.
He does not need to change to please you, and actually he can’t.
She does not need to change to please you, and actually she can’t.
The moment you let go of the thought that something or someone should be something else than they are, you have all your relationship problems solved.
Until, of course, you are in a situation where you have to do the work again.
And then again, and again and again.
You live on and your heart keeps growing...